I am so sick of victimizing.
I’m sick of seeing people in the media doing it, I’m sick of seeing people I know online doing it to
themselves and I am WAY sick of choosing to make myself a victim. Because that is the cold, hard truth-
we make the choice to either be a victim or warrior in life. And every time you ask “why is this
happening to me,” instead of “how am I going to better this situation,” you are CHOOSING to make
yourself a victim. I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to set my life on fire and be a warrior.
I have mentioned on numerous occasions that the last couple of years have been quite tumultuous for
me. But every good thing that has happened has been the result of something horrible happening and
my conscious decision to rise above it and be greater. Things are going to happen in life-relationships
ending, losing jobs, illness, etc. During these times, the temptation to lay down and give up hope and
blame everything else is strong. But doesn’t it just seem a little bit easier to let things go, accept what
has happened, learn from it and let the the anger and hurt fuel the desire to come out on top?
Everyone loves a success story, just ask Britney Spears!
I’ve learned through experience and some therapy that I am a control person and a “fixer,” which can
prove to be very problematic for me. Because when I see an issue, I want to make it better, whether it’s
in my own life or the people around me. I am going to share with you some valuable information that
may seem quite obvious, but it has changed my life since I let it finally sink in: you do not have control of
anything else in this world than yourself. You cannot change someone else, you cannot change outside
circumstances, the ONLY thing you can control is your life, your choices and your reactions. The most
tragic irony is that in trying to control everything else, we lose control of the one thing we actually can
manage-our own lives. I’ve been shackling myself to a relationship for over a year that has literally
almost killed me. Physically, emotionally, mentally, the energy I have poured into this situation which I
have no control over has drained me until there is nothing left. And you know what all my time and
energy and tears has solved? Nada. Nothing. It has made me a lunatic and brought down every other
aspect of my life. The solution is so simple: LET IT GO, STOP BEING A VICTIM TO IT AND TAKE CONTROL
OF MYSELF! It’s WAY past time for me to invest all that energy into something with actual return and
that is my own well-being.
Oh the love of your life bailed on you Kathie? You lost your job? Still not accomplished anything with
your body and fitness goals??? Wahhh. That sucks. Well suck it up. It’s time to be a bad bitch. Paint on
some makeup. Expel that negative energy at the gym on something that is going to make you look AND
feel better. Stop drowning your sorrows in food and alcohol. It’s just as easy to pick up a glass of frickin
water as a glass of wine or to swallow a slice of fruit as a slice of pizza. Stop blaming everyone else and
accept responsibility for the fact that YOU are the reason all this is happening so YOU can fix it
immediately. There is absolutely nothing attractive about a negative, whiny, crying victim who is not
proactive within their own life. What is attractive, however, is a confident, successful, independent
person who doesn’t need anyone else to be amazing. That stuff radiates from inside out and will attract
other good, like minded people in return.
When I read “The Secret” for the first time in 2012 it completely changed my life. I immediately began
to see results once the concept of the Law of Attraction finally clicked-what you focus on in your mind is
what you will attract into your life. If you constantly dwell on loss/sickness/sadness/anger, that is what
you will be surrounded by. In turn, if you get laser focused on success/wealth/health/happiness, those
things will naturally appear. And it’s not some magic trick, it’s just your thoughts subconsciously driving
your actions. You want to get fit? Read nothing but fitness blogs and magazines, spend an hour at the
gym every day, make friends with people who live that lifestyle and tell me you don’t get results. It’s
common sense- you obviously won’t make any changes if you spend all your time around unhealthy
people, sitting at bars or eating fast food and reading tabloids. The most important question I ask
myself over and over again is this:
Are the steps I’m taking daily leading me to my ultimate destination?
If your goal is to climb to the top of Mount Everest, the steps you are going to take are going to be uphill
and sometimes difficult. Sure, it would be much easier to put one foot in front of the other in the
opposite direction, but day after day you will find yourself not only no closer to your goal, but actually
drifting further and further from it. I am committing myself to stop doing things every day that are
putting me nowhere closer to where I want to be. So this is me putting it out into the universe here and
now to make it tangible: I want a successful, fulfilling career, I want a loving committed relationship with
an equal partner and I want a stomach that I can show off in a 2 piece. Let’s all get to work on
transforming from victims to warriors. It’s time to level the eff up!