I’m talking about forgiveness. So what does this have to do with your health journey? Well you know that I am big on mindset. I believe that it can make or break your success when it comes to creating a healthy lifestyle that is easy and fun. So why am I talking about forgiveness? I believe that you must release old beliefs in order to create new habits.
Remember that our thoughts create our feelings which determine our actions which ultimately give us results. So if your thoughts are negative and unforgiving, if you are dwelling on the past, if you are continuing to put yourself down, then you will not feel like creating a new, positive reality for yourself which is healthy and happy. Many times the negative thoughts come from our past, from a choice we’ve made, from a bad situation, or they may even come at a subconscious level. In order to forgive and let go of the past we must recognize what those thoughts are.
The first step to forgiving yourself is to take 100 % responsibility for your actions. Because if you take 100% responsibility then you have 100% power to change it. Make a list of what you are going to take responsibility for: poor food choices, lack of self-care, negative talk, or whatever that looks like in your life. Then you’re going to take each of those situations and forgive yourself. Now I know that’s not as easily said as done so I’m going to teach you how to use the Hawaiian Forgiveness Practice called Ho’oponopono. There are two definitions of the word ho’oponopono in the Hawaiian dictionary the first is to make right and the second is a mental cleanse. In some instances, it can be a family conferences in which relationships were set right.
Step 1: Repentance: I’m sorry. You can even say it more clearly: “I realize that I am responsible for the (issue) in my life and I feel terrible remorse that something in my consciousness has caused this.”
Step 2: Ask Forgiveness- Please forgive me. You can ask this of yourself, God, the universe. Whatever is most meaningful to
you. Remember the remorse from step 1 as you ask for forgiveness. You may have to repeat it multiple times. I always like to end with “I am forgiven.” It gives me the sense of closure that its done.
Step 3: Gratitude- Thank you. This one is key. You are being thankful because the situation has caused you enough pain to make a change. It was a lesson, a reality that you needed to become a better version of yourself. Thank yourself, thank God, thank the universe for this realization and the lessons learned. Again, you may need to repeat this several times in order to really feel into it.
Step 4: Love- I love you.
This one is probably going to be the hardest but the most important. Telling yourself that you love who you are today in this moment. You can start with telling God or Universe, I love you. But always end with telling yourself, “I love you.” To take it a step further say it in the mirror as many times as possible until you truly believe it.
You can use this process to forgive others as well. That’s probably the subject of another post, but I will just say this…if you use it to forgive another person, you are not freeing them of their responsibility, you are freeing yourself from the situation and from holding on to the feelings that come from that situation.
Using this process can be hard but the results can be incredible. Forgiveness can give you the freedom to make choices that are in alignment with your goals instead of making excuses. Forgiveness can release the negative thoughts that are holding you back from living your best life. Many people live under the burden of their choices and they let those choices define their reality. Forgiveness allows us to release that burden and let go of those thoughts, feelings and actions that are no longer serving us.
If you would like to go deeper on this subject matter and other ways to create lasting change in your life, connect with me and ask about my one-on-one mindset coaching.
To your health and mindset,
Coach Leslie J Salling