Maybe you resonate with the word “block” but I’d like to challenge that thinking. What if I told you that the only thinking holding you back or blocking you is only your “belief” that something is blocking you or preventing you from having the health that you’ve always wanted.
Maybe you’ve visited to my Instagram page and you’ve seen me in a handstand or doing pull ups and you think, “well she can do that, but I could never do that.” Let me tell you a secret, neither could I 3 years ago. Yes, I did gymnastics when I was younger, but the body in my 30’s is VERY different than my teenage body. Trust me it does not move the same way. I’ve been working hard the last 4 years to improve my skills, to lift more weight, to eat healthy. I’ve had to take baby steps, just like you’ll have to do. I’ve had to make my health a priority. I’ve had to get my butt off the coach even when I didn’t want to. I’ve had to get uncomfortable to get where I’m at today. I had limiting beliefs about my own health. I would look at Instagram pages and think, I don’t have the time or the money to eat the way these women eat or to spend that amount of time in the gym (even though I had no idea how much time they actually spent in the gym). This limiting belief can really take over our minds, but its NOT true.
I started my health journey 4 years ago. I was a single mom of 3 very active boys. I was the one who got them to school in the mornings, made sure they had breakfast, packed a lunch and everything else morning routines come with. I was the sole provider of the house. I had to work full-time to make sure there was food on the table and a roof over their heads. I was the one who got them to afterschool activities, usually we were going in 3 different directions. I had to make dinner and help with homework. It was rare that I sat down before 8 o’clock on any given week night. I knew my health was declining, but when did I have time to care about it?
My health had to become a priority to several reasons. First, I just needed more energy to get through the day. Second, as my boys were getting older. I knew that I needed to be a good example to them when it came to taking care of myself. Nobody else was around to show them a good example of that. So what did I do? I found time in my schedule to start working out. 5am workouts sucked, but my reasons why were more important than dragging myself out of bed that early. As I started being consistent (3 days a week), I started to have more energy (yes, even though I was getting up at 4:30am) and I started to see a change in my body and attitude. I started to shift my families eating habits to match the gym time that I was putting in. (The boys weren’t happy to be eating “healthy” food at first, but they’ve gotten used to it.) Making my health a priority changed my life forever. As a single, working mom of 3 boys, I had to release the limiting belief that a healthy lifestyle wasn’t possible for me. Now going to the gym is just part of my routine and I don’t have to think as much about purchasing healthy food, its just what I choose everyday.
So think about where you are currently. Are you just starting to evaluate your health and have no idea where to start? Maybe you’ve been “in shape” before and you know how it feels to be healthy so you’re trying to get back to that place. Maybe you are on the right track but need some help to get to the next level. Where ever you are starting from…you’re in the perfect place.
Now let’s talk about this limiting belief. So you see everyone else losing weight, lifting heavy, eating right, having the body that you loved to see in the mirror, but you think well that’s not possible for me. So what you’re really saying to yourself is, I’m not worthy enough to feel and look that way. Have you ever compared your first week to someone else’s 3rd year? In order for us to bust through this belief we have to get past our normal thinking patterns so stay with me on this. If you’ve ever looked into any type of manifestation you may have heard of your higher self and your ego. Now don’t get hung up on the actual words. Basically, we all have 2 different places from where our thoughts come from which cause our actions. They help us with 2 completely different functions. The ego keeps us safe and helps us survive. Think of this as your flight, fight or freeze response in the face of danger, that’s your ego. So your ego helps you survive but it won’t help you thrive. Its focused on risk, on what’s wrong. Your higher self helps you thrive. It’s your intuition, it creates your dreams, it’s there to make life beautiful. You need both your ego and your high self to live a full life. But many people are fully functioning with their ego. They allow those fear responses to take over and control their life even when they’re not actually in any danger. It’s easy to get so consumed with your ego, that you forget there is a beautiful world out there just waiting for your unique presence to add to its beauty. Many of us have had our higher self silenced by other people’s opinions of us, the world’s limiting view of who we should be and how we should act.
Here are a few examples when each one is creating a thought.
Ego: If I lose weight, I’ll lose my friends. Higher Self: My friends love me for me, not for my weight.
Ego: It didn’t work before, so it won’t work now. Higher Self: I’m always growing and learning new things.
Ego: I’m so ugly. Higher Self: I’m a beautiful and loving soul, creating perfectly.
Knowing the difference between your ego and your higher self is a process. It takes time to recognize when your thoughts are not true or helpful. When you do have a limiting belief its important not to judge yourself for having that limiting belief. Judgement will only perpetuate the cycle. Instead, be curious and let the thought go. Simply say, “that’s interesting” and then move on. Once you can start making decision from your higher self, you will be able to move forward without fear and without doubt. You will be able to make decision that will take you to the next level in your health or even in life.
To Your Higher Self,
Coach Leslie J.